I think that if the sender marks the payment with the “OUR” instruction for costs, that bunq should charge these € 5 to the sender of the payment and not the receiver (like all other banks do).
In other cases where there is no “OUR” ear mark for the costs, bunq can charge the receiver of the money.
I have the same experience, my salary is sent from the US with SWIFT, and they are all marked “OUR”, so my employer should payfor all costs.
Previously at ING this was no problem, I never ever had to pay for receiving my salary, when I switched to bunq I had.
No I am switching again, otherwise it will be a very expensive bankaccount when I have to pay twice a month an additional fee of € 5 a top of the premium fee.